How to Stop Explaining Yourself All the Time

A short guide to choosing self-trust over performance

At some point, many of us were taught this:
If someone misunderstands you, it's your job to fix it.

So we explain.
And explain.
And over-explain.

We pad our truth in softness.
We rewrite messages three times.
We rehearse conversations to sound “reasonable.”
We add disclaimers like:
“I don’t mean to be difficult”
or
“I’m probably just being sensitive.”

This habit of overexplaining isn’t just about communication.
It’s about proving your right to be you — and it’s exhausting.